Couple Intensives

Do You Feel Disconnected From Your Spouse And You Don’t Know Where To Turn?

You said, “I do,” and promised forever. You never imagined that you would be at this place. How did the future full of possibilities become one marked by so many obstacles?

The two of you may simply be struggling to communicate, or you may find yourselves faced with infidelity or betrayal and you are not sure if you can survive another week together. We navigate these difficult places with couples regularly.

A feeling of isolation is common and it can be hard to find the time to have the conversations that are so desperately needed to heal your relationship. Anxiety, depression, anger, and resentment are plentiful when couples are struggling to connect and communicate. Our intensives are led by therapists with expertise to support you and help you navigate a new and better future. The intensive also provides the concentranted time to set a new foundation to begin healing and considering what a new and better future would look like.

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We Combine The Leading Couples Treatment Models To Customize Intensives That Address Your Needs And Help You Have The Conversations That are Necessary For Rebuilding Your Relationship

Tal and Teresa have completed Level 3 training in the Gottman Couples Method. They use research-base assessments and resources that best fit your relationship to help you have conversations that have either not happened or that regularly end in conflict.

Have you noticed that many of your disagreements are perpetual and require an individual winner and loser. We have the training and tools to help you create space for the marriage to win without losing yourself in the battle. We teach you how to collaborate and connect over simply digging into conflict that ends in gridlock or forced compliance.

Anger can be a numbing emotion and resentment is a mood that may fuel you day to day but also robs you of joy. Unmet wants and failed attempts to connect leave couples unsure of where to turn. We can help you uncover the negative cycle that underscores most of your fights using the Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) Model.

If you have discovered your partner’s betrayal and are not sure that you can trust them again or that you even want to continue in the marriage, we see that. We walk through this with couples every week. You are not alone, and there is a process to navigate this devastation.

Tal is trained as a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) and a Certified Partner Trauma Therapist (CPTT). Teresa is trained as an Associate Sex Addiction Therapist (ASAT) and a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS). We both know the impact of infidelity and addiction on the individual and the relationship, as well as the impact of betrayal trauma on the partner.

Tal and Teresa were in one of the early training groups with Carol Sheets and Jake Porter to incorporate the Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model (ERCEM). This helps couples learn empathy and navigate the relationship post-full therapeutic disclosure.

To address the trauma that each of you are navigating, Tal and Teresa are trained in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) and Brainspotting.

We are invested in your recovery and healing as a couple and have committed time and resources to provide you with leading research-based tools and assessments.

Fueling Connection In The Confusion and Conflict

Most conflict is perpetual, 69% according to Gottman. That can seem overwhelming if you are having a hard time connecting. However, learning to navigate that 69% of conflict in your relationship can change the future for the two of you and your family as a whole.

The first three minutes of a difficult conversation predicts the outcome, leading to success or failure. We help you slow it down and make it safe to say what you really intend to say. Oftentimes, couples sabatoge what they really want to say because they don’t know how to navigate the reactivity that surrounds them when there is distance and/ or betrayal in the relationship.

If the foundation of truth has been shattered in your relationship, and you want to connect and rebuild, we can help. You may think your spouse will never trust you again. Or you may have been betrayed and want to rebuild the relationship, but cannot imagine how you could ever trust again. We can take you through a disclosure process during your one-on-one intensive and help the two of you lay this foundation of truth. “A survey of partners’ experiences of the recovery process conducted by the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS) suggests that prolonged wait time between the discovery of betrayal and the full disclosure can be more distressing than the full disclosure itself in some cases. On a 10-point scale of emotional distress, with a ‘10’ indicating the highest level of emotional distress, [Initial Discovery = 9.6; Wait Time = 9.2; Full Disclosure 7.7.]”¹ The full disclosure was significantly less distressing than discovery and the wait time for disclosure.

Intensive Couples Therapy At Insights Counseling Center Accelerates The Course Of Treatment

Sometimes marriages have reached a point that 50 minutes once a week or once every other week is not enough to navigate the conflict that has surfaced between the couple.

Gottman identified four communication styles that, according to his research, could predict the end of a relationship. These are: criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling. These have often become such a part of the communication patterns in the couples we work with, that they regularly sabotage what they are trying to communicate.

We teach these skills to couples in individual sessions and they regularly have deeper understanding; however, when they return in one or two weeks, we are picking up right where we left off during our last session. They see positive results with the dedicated time and structure in our office, yet they don’t have the time or take the time to practice on their own. It is hard to break old patterns and create new and healthier conversations. The extended time together in our intensive setting gets the two of you through some of the most difficult conversations with our help.

In an intensive, we can help you recognize these destructive patterns and learn the behaviors that counteract them with enough repetition that you have had the practice you need to take them into your daily life. We will help you chart a course for treatment in your marriage with proven resources and assessments.

The Process for Marriage Intensives

Group Couples Intensives

We offer three to five day intensives where couples can get away to learn relationship skills to improve their communication and connection with one another. We combine education, application, and therapeutic support with feedback as you learn and implement new skills.

Individual Couples Intensive

We work with couples to customize individual intensives, whether they are three hours or four days. You can plan your intensive time with just Tal or Teresa or have them both join the two of you so you each have individual support and specialized breakouts.

Therapeutic Full-Disclosure Intensive

We have a team in place to help couples who don’t have the time to prepare a disclosure over two to three months and who need a disclosure for a variety of reasons. Some need to know what they are healing from and if they are in financial or physical danger and need to know the extent of the infidelity. Others are working with therapists who do not provide a disclosure team and they want to establish a foundation of truth to begin the work of rebuilding. The wait between discovering betrayal and full disclosure can be as difficult as the day of discovery itself. We know the importance of having the answers in a dscolsure with therapeutic support and save time in our schedules to get you in quickly to do the work to repair your marriage.

Come to an Intensive and Experience Collaboration & Connection Over Control & Compliance

We don’t simply tell you what is damaging your connection and to stop that! We help you find new options to replace those old destructive patterns that are coming between the two of you. You don’t have to control the conversation or fake agreeing and comply to try and make it another day. A couples intensive at Insights Counseling Center helps the two of you experience collaboration and connection so that you can chart a new way forward.

You can have the marriage that you thought you were getting when you said, “I do.” We are ready to help you.

Intensives Cost

Intake Assessment Fee $500
due at registration

Hourly Intensive Weekend Fee per Therapist $595
50% due 4 weeks before start date
final balance 1 week before start date

Total Fees range between
$2285 - $12,400 for one therapist

Available Intensive Therapy Hours:

Fridays 8:30 a.m. -6:00 p.m.
Saturdays 10:00 a.m. - 5:00 p.m.
Sundays 11:00 a.m. - 6:00 p.m.
Mondays 9:00 a.m. - 4:00 p.m.

Intensive Marathon Couples Therapy is short-term and intensive, involving 3 to 4 consecutive days of intensive therapy, with 15 to 20 hours of therapy. The structure of each therapy day will based on your needs and goals. Your therapist will begin the first day of the Marathon by completing a full relationship assessment with you, about 3 hours in length. This Love Lab assessment and oral history intake is key for providing the two of you and your therapist essential insight into your areas of strengths and challenges.

In Marathon Couples Therapy, participants often find themselves engaging with challenging emotions and memories more directly and swiftly than in traditional therapy settings. This can bring intense feelings such as sadness, guilt, anxiety, anger, loneliness, and helplessness to the forefront of the sessions.

Our focused work together might temporarily heighten your relationship's complexities, which could also lead to difficult truths or long-held secrets being discussed. While our therapists are dedicated to guiding you toward positive change, it's essential to understand that the therapy's course and outcome are not guarnteed.

Marathon Couples Therapy has its limitations, and in certain situations, it might not be the most suitable option. The following are not suitable for Marathon Therapy:

• If either partner is navigating an active addiction to alcohol or drugs. If one of you believes the use is to a level of addiction, this would require more support than one intensive can provide.

• If there is domestic violence in your relationship, This raises important safety concerns that need to be prioritized and addressed with care before scheduling intensive therapy.

• In cases where either partner is dealing with an untreated major mental health condition, such as schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, or recurrent psychotic depression, specialized support is advised. This is distinct from past episodes that have been successfully managed or treated.

• The presence of a current, undisclosed affair that one is not prepared to reveal can significantly impact the effectiveness of couples therapy.

• If there are ongoing thoughts of suicide or harm to oneself or others by either partner or a history of serious self-harm or harm to another, it’s crucial to seek immediate and specialized assistance.

If you have any hesitations or questions, please feel free to reach out to us for a thoughtful conversation about your options.

Your wellbeing is our utmost concern, and we are here to support you with expertise and genuine care as you take this step towards healing in your relationship.

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